Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in your
journey.
Adapted
from an article by Marc Chernoff
https://www.marcandangel.com/2023/01/17/things-you-learn-as-you-let-go-of-the-uncontrollable/
It’s always necessary to accept when some part of your life
has reached its inevitable end. Closing the door, completing the chapter,
turning the page, etc. It doesn’t matter what you title it; what matters is
that you find the strength to leave in the past those little parts of your life
that are over.
It’s all about embracing the truth: What has happened is
uncontrollable, but what you do now changes everything!
Of course, knowing this and actually living a lifestyle that
reinforces this truth are two very different things. Letting go is NOT easy –
it’s a journey that is traveled one day at a time. If you stick with it though,
here’s what your journey will ultimately teach you:
- The
most powerful changes happen in your life when you decide to take control
of what you do have power over instead of craving control over everything
you don’t.
- Most
people make themselves unhappy simply by finding it impossible to accept
life just as it is presenting itself right now.
- If you
worry too much about what might be, and wonder too long about what might
have been, you will ignore and completely miss what is.
- When
you are lost in worry, it is easy to mistake your worries for reality,
instead of recognizing that they are just thoughts. Mindfully letting go
is the remedy.
- The
biggest obstacle to growth you’ll ever have to overcome is your mind. Once
you can overcome that, you can overcome anything.
- Almost
everything will work again if you unplug it for a little while, and that
includes YOU.
- You
won’t always have it easy, but there is always a reason to be grateful.
And the greatest gift of your gratitude is that the more grateful you are,
the more present you become.
- The
secret to getting ahead is to focus all of your energy not on fixing and
fighting the old, but on building and growing something new.
- Letting
go doesn’t mean you don’t care about something or someone anymore. It’s
just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is
yourself in this moment.
- In
most cases, you can’t calm the storm – it’s not worth trying. What you can
do is calm yourself, and the storm will pass.
- You
can always control the way you respond to what happens, and in your
response is your power.
- Oftentimes
letting go is simply changing the labels you place on a situation – it’s
looking at the same situation with fresh eyes and an open mind.
- There
is absolutely nothing about your present circumstances that prevents you
from making progress, one tiny step at a time.
- The
day you “understood” everything, was the day you stopped trying to figure
everything out. The day you find peace and freedom again will be the day
you let everything go.
- You
must let go of certainty. And you must remember that the opposite of
certainty is not uncertainty, it’s openness, curiosity and a willingness
to embrace life as it is, rather than resisting it. The ultimate challenge
is to accept yourself exactly as you are, and accept life just as it is,
but never stop trying to learn and grow to the best of your abilities.
- Underneath
it all, the hardest part is not really letting go, but rather learning to
start over.
- Stepping
onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining
in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists.
- Sometimes
it takes a little heartbreak to shake you awake, help you let go, and show
you that you are worth so much more than you were settling for.
- When
it comes to social drama, letting go of other people’s rude remarks is the
best step forward. Most haters don’t really hate you; they just hate where
they are in life, and you’re simply collateral damage to their inner angst
and reactionary behavior.
- Your
heart might be bruised, but it will gradually heal and become capable of
feeling the beauty of life once again. It’s happened to you before, and it
will happen again – life is always changing. When something ends or
someone leaves, it’s because something else or someone else is about to
arrive – you will feel alive and whole again soon.
Afterthoughts
It can be difficult to leave a long-term life situation
behind, even when your inner-compass tells you that things aren’t right and
it’s time to let go. At this point, you can choose to let go and endure the
sudden pain of leaving behind the familiar to make way for a new chapter in
your life, or you can stay and suffer a constant, aching pain that gradually
eats away at your heart and mind, like a cancer… until you wake up one day and
find yourself buried so deep in the dysfunction of the situation that you
barely remember who you are and what you desire.
Don’t do this you yourself!
Things will happen that are unexpected, undesirable, and
uncontrollable. But you can always choose to take the next tiniest step. Be
brave and take it…
Be willing to make mistakes, learn from them, let go of
them, and move along. What’s one uncontrollable past event or life situation
that you need to let go of? What attachments are creating unnecessary stress in
your life?
Keep coming back. It works if you work it, so work it, YOU’RE WORTH IT!