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Timing Life frequently does not happen when or the way that we plan or think we need it to. We’re going to review a holistic approach to the concepts and practice of Timing, Surrender and Balance, in life and in recovery, over the next three weeks.  The three are part of a holistic approach that focuses on treating the whole person rather than just specific symptoms or conditions. It considers physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual well-being. This method recognizes that all these aspects are interconnected and influence our overall health. This week, we’ll start with the concept of Timing: Life often doesn't go as planned because our expectations may not align with reality, or we might underestimate the effort required to achieve our goals. It's important to adapt and be open to new opportunities instead of being fixed on specific outcomes.  We may sometimes have aspirations that, despite their best intentions, do not materialize. This can lead to feelings of disa...

The goal each and every day of your life is to gradually grow stronger on the inside, so that less and less on the outside can affect your inner wellness without your conscious permission. Truth be told, how you cope with unexpected problems and frustrations can easily be the difference between living a good life and living an unhealthy one. If you choose unhealthy coping mechanisms like avoidance or denial, for example, you can quickly turn a tough situation into a tragic one. And sadly, this is a common mistake many people make. When you find yourself facing a disheartening reality, your first reaction might be to deny the situation, or to avoid dealing with it altogether. But by doing so you’re inadvertently holding on even tighter to the pain that you wish to let go of — you’re, in effect, sealing it up inside you. Let’s imagine someone close to you has grown ill, and supporting this person through his or her illness is incredibly painful. You might not want to deal with the pain, ...

What is the “Higher Power” in recovery? Many steps in our recovery program refer to “ God ,” a “ Higher Powe r,” or a “ power greater than ourselves .” In recovery, we must be free to interpret this “Higher Power” in a way that’s most relevant to our own needs and to allow others that same freedom.  God, Spirituality and religion are related but distinct concepts.  Religion refers to the institutionalized system of beliefs and practices, often involving organized worship and adherence to specific doctrines.  In contrast, spirituality is a privately maintained existential belief system that focuses on personal connection and meaning, often involving a relationship with a higher power or a sense of transcendence.  While religion and spirituality can coexist, they can also exist independently.  Spirituality emphasizes personal growth, meaning-making, and connection with a power outside of ourselves, which can be a central mechanism for transformative change....

The truth does not cease to exist when it’s forgotten or ignored. From https://www.marcandangel.com/2025/01/08/5-painfully-obvious-truths-we-tend-to-forget-in-hard-times/#more-7399 by Angel Chernoff You know how you can hear or read something dozens of times in various ways before it finally sinks in? The truths listed below fall firmly into that category — timeless lessons that many of us probably learned a long time ago, and have been reminded of year after year, yet for whatever reason we tend to forget in the heat of the moment. This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, “get it” and “remember it” once and for all… 1. Life is relatively short and nothing is guaranteed. We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one mor...

 From https://www.essentialsofrecovery.com/2018/02/the-practice-of-forgiveness.html?m=1 Marianne Williamson says, "The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world." We must learn to forgive, not just for ourselves, but because we influence the rest of the world, including our loved ones and families. Forgiveness is deeply healing. It allows us to live free in the present moment. But let me be clear about what forgiveness is not: 1. Forgiveness does not mean condoning. It does not condone past hurtful behavior. Forgiveness is consciously choosing to release past grievances that have happened, so that you can be free and move on with your life. It gives you the power to release resentment. 2. Forgiveness does not mean inaction. It does not mean that we blindly accept the destructive behaviors of others who threaten our safety. In no way does forgiveness mean that we allow violent acts to continue. Forgiveness takes great strength. True...

If it keeps you busy but doesn’t move you forward, holds you down or moves you backwards, it’s a distraction. There’s a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion. Life is too short not to focus more on what matters most. And life is definitely too short for routines that keep you stuck in a cycle of feeling like you’re a day late and a buck short. So today, let’s discuss three common reasons many of us remain stuck in that cycle, year after year. 1. We keep trying to overcome the odds in an unsupportive environment No matter how strong you are, and no matter how much determination and willpower you have, if you keep yourself positioned in an environment that works against your best intentions, you will eventually succumb to that environment. This is where so many of us make life-altering missteps. When we find ourselves struggling to make progress in an unhealthy environment, we somehow believe that we have no other choice — that positioning ourselves in a more sup...